Friendship – It’s your turn!

I was in Hallmark looking at cards one day and picked up one that on the outside read, “Ever have a day when everything went right?” Then on the inside … “Yeh, me either.” I know. I laughed right out loud. Oh come on. You know you would have too. I bought the card and sent it – – – to someone who would laugh out loud too. There’s a reason why I surround myself with positive people.

I don’t know what kind of day you had yesterday or the day before or the day before that. I do know that our days come bundled good with bad and sometimes we need a pickax and floodlight to find the sliver of good. This is why in God’s plan he created friends. Proverbs 17:17 says “A friend loves at all times.” A friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway.

I’ve heard that everything we need to know, we learned in kindergarten. In fact Robert Fulghum wrote a book with a similar title. In it he shares conventional wisdom like ‘Share everything’ ‘Play fair’ ‘Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody’ and my personal favorite ‘When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together.’ This is what friends do.

How was your day yesterday? What are you expecting today? Ecclesiastes 9:1 pretty much spells it out for us. We will have good days and bad days. “Then I understood that God has power over everyone, even those of us who are wise and live right. Anything can happen to any of us, and so we never know if life will be good or bad.” Sometimes it’s hard to chisel ourselves out of a hard place. When we talk about being in our groove, it’s more like being wrenched in a rut. Psalm 143:1 throws us a tow rope “Listen, Lord, as I pray! You are faithful and honest and will answer my prayer.”

I’ve had days that seemed stuck, like Ground Hog Day. I was sure I wore God out praying a lot like David’s prayer in Psalm 143:10 “You are my God. Show me what you want me to do, and let your gentle Spirit lead me in the right path.” God is not a magician. I didn’t pray and ‘Presto!’ all the muddy distractions disappeared. But God gave me a friend to come alongside me to pray and hold me up when all the crud was pushing me into that rut. Are you going through tough times? Maybe you need to cash in a friend ticket.

To have a friend, you have to be a friend. Maybe you hold the friend ticket and it’s your turn to be a friend to someone else. Is there someone who needs to know you’re there for them? You know, the Internet is an instant communication tool. Instant gratifications aren’t always bad. Email and social media are conduits to share precious moments with people you care about. If that doesn’t work for you, try a phone call, text message, or a paper card you actually write on and put in the mail.

In 1983 Neil Diamond wrote a song that epitomizes friendship. Every time I hear “Turn on your heartlight. Let it shine wherever you go. Let it make a happy glow. For all the world to see.” It turns on my heartlight. I don’t want to call it a challenge, but let’s call it a gentle nudge. Is there someone in your circle who needs a friend? Reach out to them. Is it you who needs a little extra help in finding the good in every day? Reach out and ask for it.  Proverbs 27:9 “The sweet smell of incense can make you feel good, but true friendship is better still.”

“Ever have a day when everything went right?” …..  “Yeh, me either.”


A friend is someone you need – turn on your heartlight -Neil Diamond


4 thoughts on “Friendship – It’s your turn!

  1. It’s so true that in order to have friends, we have to be a friend. Today we’ve all become so disconnected thanks to technology, that we really have to make an extra effort to call our friends, send letters, or meet with them in person. But it’s worth the effort to build these relationships and keep them strong!

  2. I absolutely loved this post, Jane! It felt to be so light-hearted.
    I however disagree! Some days go all-wonderful! They do!!
    …although as I sat and tried to put my memory-finger on just one to share with you as an example, I came up empty handed. But I am sure!! (snickering)
    The Bible also reminds us that we are not MEANT to travel through life alone, does it not? Does it not caution and remind us that at least three friends are required for keeping us on the right and good path and to help us stand if we stumble or fall? These are the ones I pull out most often for Papa… he so much believes that a good and strong man must stand alone. (So wrong)

  3. A couple years ago I was going to write about friendship. I searched and searched but so few scriptures are complimentary about friends. Most of the verses talk about friends who drag you down, or make you feel stupid – I gave up on that idea. I still write about friendship, but I use a few scattered verses and make the rest up. LOL You are an awesome friend and whether you are surrounded by people or a lone candle in the forest – you shine and I can hear Turn on your heartlight wafting over.

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